Me and my girlfriend have been together for a few months now and even I would say that we are moving fast. We like each other a lot but have not gotten to the point where we say we love each other yet. She practically lives at my house and I enjoy her being here with me. So to say the least we see an awful lot of each other and we enjoy each others company enough to do so.
The problem starts here, I am in the Army and I travel quite a bit. Sometimes I'm gone for a week or 2 for schools and stuff like that. When I leave to go to these schools she randomly hooks up with her guy friend. I have yet to meet this guy friend but let me tell you what I know about him. Part time physical trainer (my girlfriend had a pic of him posing shirt off for his caller id in her phone) and runs a internet Business (which he has now convinced her to help him with this business and she is giddy at the idea). Him and my girlfriend originally met through a mutual friend with the intentions for them to hook up. Now I realize that she has friends and I am in no way saying that I don't want her to have any friends but, I think that when I leave and she goes straight for him to hang out is pushing the wrong buttons with me. A movie came out that I wanted to see with her and she knew this but I had to leave on a training event. She goes to a gathering of some sort that this friend invited her to, they eat dinner then, they go watch this movie that I wanted to see with her. Now, I get upset and not just because she watched the movie without me but she went with that guy. One other thing I failed to mention about my girlfriend, she is very sporadic and all this was told to me after she did it.
She does tell me what she is doing OR has done to be more accurate, but sometimes I wonder. I trust her but these situations she puts herself in make it hard to trust. I do know that even if I did meet this guy and even if i liked him that I would not approve of my girlfriend seeing him if I was not present or I at least had an advanced notice. She knows how I feel and says she is not changing her friendship with him, actually there friendship has gotten better since I brought it up to her.
Am I overacting, should I deal with the hurt all the time of knowing she is out having fun with other guys while I am away? Or do I end the hurt and call the relationship before it really serious?
Girlfriends and there guy friends, what is to much?
you're a complete failure for letting your girlfriend cheat on you
